Are you an asshole?

[Norska]

The answer is yes.

Now on to more important topics. What's your take on going after a "claimed" person? For instance, when do you draw the line if you feel a real attraction to somebody? If their married? Dating? Married or dating someone you know? Your friend? Your stepmom?

Does it matter if you're shooting for a relationship, or just a shag?

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[CoSh]

Who am I kidding, the only two girls I've dated were single anyways. That said, I hit on girls with boyfriends.

[Andile™]

[Ero Elohim]

Girls with boyfriends are fair game. I'm a firm believer that you can't really steal a girl if she's in a happy relationship. So, I'm only hastening the inevitable breakup. Marriages are another story. There's usually more at stake than some dude's feeling's for her. That said, I don't actually meet a lot of married women.

I've broken up a few relationships. It's usually because I want to date the girl, which I've recently come to realize is an absolutely shitty idea. If she's the type to break up the moment someone else interesting comes along, my relationship with her tends to be just as short-lived. I don't get a lot of thrills out of casual sex, though.

[Boxy Brown]

Rick Springfield is the man.

[Boxy Brown]

Also, if a girl is willing to cheat then that's clearly not a healthy relationship. The only thing that would stop me would be if he's always been a good friend of mine. But lately somethings changed that ain't hard to define. Jessie's got himself a girl and I want to make her mine. CAUSE SHE'S WATCHING HIM WITH THOSE EYES! AND SHE'S LOVING HIM WITH THAT BODY I JUST KNOW IT! AND HE'S HOLDING HER IN HIS ARMS LATE, LATE AT NIGHT!

[Norska]

If she's the type to break up the moment someone else interesting comes along, my relationship with her tends to be just as short-lived. I don't get a lot of thrills out of casual sex, though.

I used to feel this way, but I reevaluated my opinion. Psychology is difficult, and trying to figure out future behavior based on past behavior is spotty at best. That said, past behavior is the best indicator of future behavior that we have. No two people are the same though. There are a multitude of reasons to cheat in a relationship (while some are justifiable, I don't think any can really give you the moral high ground in a philisophical debate ) and just because she has done it to someone else, doesn't mean the same thing will happen to your relationship. It's kind of a crapshoot, so until you know the person well enough you can't say reliably one way or another, and even then you are just making the best guess you possibly could.

That said, I don't feel more than a physical attraction to someone all that often, it's very rare for me to click on an intellectual or emotional level. When it does happen, I'll pursue it regardless because it is that rare.

[Ero Elohim]

Well, from personal experience, every relationship that I've broken up has turned into the girl cheating on me within six months. So it's not just her past behavior.

Then again, I probably make a better lover than a boyfriend, since I have a hard time keeping things interesting for longer than a few months. At some point, I just get complacent and everything falls apart.

[Sillywilly]

Well, from personal experience, every relationship that I've broken up has turned into the girl cheating on me within six months. So it's not just her past behavior.

Then again, I probably make a better lover than a boyfriend, since I have a hard time keeping things interesting for longer than a few months. At some point, I just get complacent and everything falls apart.

I agree. Most "cheating" or ditching people for another is a character type rather than just an random action.

In fact I can't think of a single person that cheated in a relationship/marriage that hasn't done it at least twice.

[Valec]

I agree. Most "cheating" or ditching people for another is a character type rather than just an random action.

Most statistics are also made up on the spot.

There are multiple reasons why people cheat and not everybody who does, does so consistently. In fact most people do it when they are already in an unhappy relationship. So if the bitch cheated on you, it's probably your own fault. Naturally this doesn't apply to every relationship, but more often than not it is the cause. It's very rare that people will cheat when in a happy relationship. So to call it a character trait is only as true as being in unhappy relationships is a character trait.

[Sillywilly]

Most statistics are also made up on the spot.

YOU MADE THAT UP

There are multiple reasons why people cheat and not everybody who does, does so consistently. In fact most people do it when they are already in an unhappy relationship. So if the bitch cheated on you, it's probably your own fault. Naturally this doesn't apply to every relationship, but more often than not it is the cause. It's very rare that people will cheat when in a happy relationship. So to call it a character trait is only as true as being in unhappy relationships is a character trait.

Never had a woman cheat on me. I'm just that awesome.

At least now we know you have ZERO experience with women though. Not that I doubted it.

Women are the "cheating type" because of a number of reasons.

1. You've got the girl that has to be with the rich/distinguished type but isn't getting the pickle tickle enough or how she likes it and seeks it behind his back.
2. You've got the girl that doesn't do the "solo" thing because a bad relationship is better than no relationship at all and won't risk losing one until she's firmly implanted into the next one.
3. The attention whores who want as much attention from as many men as possible.
4. The drama queen who constantly wants to be at the center of controversy and drama and cheating is a good way to stir it up.

etc.

You're a virgin. Shut up.

[Valec]

Never had a woman cheat on me. I'm just that awesome.

At least now we know you have ZERO experience with women though. Not that I doubted it.

Women are the "cheating type" because of a number of reasons.

1. You've got the girl that has to be with the rich/distinguished type but isn't getting the pickle tickle enough or how she likes it and seeks it behind his back.
2. You've got the girl that doesn't do the "solo" thing because a bad relationship is better than no relationship at all and won't risk losing one until she's firmly implanted into the next one.
3. The attention whores who want as much attention from as many men as possible.
4. The drama queen who constantly wants to be at the center of controversy and drama and cheating is a good way to stir it up.

etc.

You're a virgin. Shut up.

You're an idiot for not realizing that every reason you listed falls under my description.


p.s. your wife is cheating on you with an atheist.

[Boxy Brown]

Well, from personal experience, every relationship that I've broken up has turned into the girl cheating on me within six months. So it's not just her past behavior.

Then again, I probably make a better lover than a boyfriend, since I have a hard time keeping things interesting for longer than a few months. At some point, I just get complacent and everything falls apart.

I have yet to meet someone who can continuously hold my attention for more than a few months. It's WAY harder than I thought it would be. I just get bored with most people besides my family and very close friends.

[Ero Elohim]

I have yet to meet someone who can continuously hold my attention for more than a few months. It's WAY harder than I thought it would be. I just get bored with most people besides my family and very close friends.

Pretty much. After a few months, the novelty has worn off and I feel obligated to show affection, but I don't actually want to hang around the person for any length of time. It's like "Hey, come over. We can fuck and I'll hold you for a little bit. Then, I don't really know. Entertain yourself?"

[Sillywilly]

You're an idiot for not realizing that every reason you listed falls under my description.


p.s. your wife is cheating on you with an atheist.

You don't read very good. Only 2 of those involves bad relationships and those 2 do not REQUIRE bad relationships to be valid.

A girl that is perfectly fine at the moment but thinks something even better might be on the horizon can pull off number 2. She might not be dissatisfied but is willing to risk it for an "upgrade". There are plenty of women out there that will cheat/leave no matter what. If you wanna say that type can't be satisified no matter what and thus they are still cheating because they are always in an unhappy relationship then I can roll with that, however I still say that means they are the "cheating type".

etc.

U failz @ vagina politics.

Pretty much. After a few months, the novelty has worn off and I feel obligated to show affection, but I don't actually want to hang around the person for any length of time. It's like "Hey, come over. We can fuck and I'll hold you for a little bit. Then, I don't really know. Entertain yourself?"

Do you have empathy problems? Are your relationships this easy because of how you are or do you just fall for the novelty so often/quickly that you experience what any of us have or would feel on a regular basis if we put ourselves in that situation so often?

[Valec]

You don't read very good. Only 2 of those involves bad relationships and those 2 do not REQUIRE bad relationships to be valid.

A girl that is perfectly fine at the moment but thinks something even better might be on the horizon can pull off number 2. She might not be dissatisfied but is willing to risk it for an "upgrade". There are plenty of women out there that will cheat/leave no matter what. If you wanna say that type can't be satisified no matter what and thus they are still cheating because they are always in an unhappy relationship then I can roll with that, however I still say that means they are the "cheating type".

etc.

U failz @ vagina politics.

lulz. I'm not even going to bother to explain to you how you are wrong. It won't make a difference anyway.

[Ero Elohim]

Do you have empathy problems? Are your relationships this easy because of how you are or do you just fall for the novelty so often/quickly that you experience what any of us have or would feel on a regular basis if we put ourselves in that situation so often?

I've been a loner most of my life. At one point, I actually thought I might have asperger's or something, but having met actual people with the disorder, I'm positive I don't. I'm relatively amiable in person. Mostly, I just don't know what to do with other people. All of my hobbies are solo activities. Playing games, playing an instrument, reading a book, writing, programming, etc. I just don't have many activities that mesh well with others.

So, when I'm in a relationship, it's mostly for the sex. I actually enjoy solving problems, too, so I tend to date pretty screwed up women. It gets me crazy, hot sex, I get to fix people, and when they're fixed, they leave.

[Mute]

I've been a loner most of my life. At one point, I actually thought I might have asperger's or something, but having met actual people with the disorder, I'm positive I don't. I'm relatively amiable in person. Mostly, I just don't know what to do with other people. All of my hobbies are solo activities. Playing games, playing an instrument, reading a book, writing, programming, etc. I just don't have many activities that mesh well with others.

So, when I'm in a relationship, it's mostly for the sex. I actually enjoy solving problems, too, so I tend to date pretty screwed up women. It gets me crazy, hot sex, I get to fix people, and when they're fixed, they leave.

Ah, you don't have asperger's. You just are a natural engineer.

[Ero Elohim]

Ah, you don't have asperger's. You just are a natural engineer.

Pretty much. I'm an engineer with a sense of hygiene. I actually test as a sort of bipolar introvert/extrovert. There are days when I am the life of the party and I'm a super-outgoing guy. Most days I just don't give a shit about people, though. Tends to throw people off when suddenly I don't want anything to do with them.

[Sazz]

Never had a woman cheat on me. I'm just that awesome.

[Mute]

[Norska]

Fucking lawl.

[ofrm1]

lol

[Sillywilly]

I've been a loner most of my life. At one point, I actually thought I might have asperger's or something, but having met actual people with the disorder, I'm positive I don't. I'm relatively amiable in person. Mostly, I just don't know what to do with other people. All of my hobbies are solo activities. Playing games, playing an instrument, reading a book, writing, programming, etc. I just don't have many activities that mesh well with others.

So, when I'm in a relationship, it's mostly for the sex. I actually enjoy solving problems, too, so I tend to date pretty screwed up women. It gets me crazy, hot sex, I get to fix people, and when they're fixed, they leave.

lol I think you pretty much just described aspergers to a T.

Note: Aspergers does not necessarily mean 40 year old virgin in sweat pants that doesn't wear deodorant. It covers a wide range of characteristics of varying degrees.


You nerds jelly? Don't date the kind of trash that would cheat. I mean holy shit, if she doesn't think you were cut out for each other then she should break it off. I've had quite a few girls decide they want to part ways for various reasons. None of which involved them cheating because they had more class than to behave that way.

OMG IF A BUNCH OF MUD MMO PLAYERS CAN'T FIND A BETTER WOMAN THAN THAT THEN NOBODY CAN!!!

I actually test as a sort of bipolar introvert/extrovert.

Holy tits I think being "tested" as both an introvert and extrovert is the fucking text book definition of bipolar lol.

That being said aspergers is actually referred to as "the engineers disease".

[Valec]

lol I think you pretty much just described aspergers to a T.

Now i'm certain he doesn't know what aspergers is.